The following conversation with Joy Wilkerson began with her email to the postmaster at Milspeak.org. Today, January 10, 2009, I checked that folder and discovered this email: 

 

1/03/09 @ 1923

Dear Sir,
 
One of my Ret. Vietnam many friends Marine Ted Corbet forwarded your email to me Joy Wilkerson, www.joywilkerson.com <http://www.joywilkerson.com> .
Are you aware of our Virtual Vietnam Archive, University of Texas Tech, Lubbock, Texas, Director is Steve Maxner?

I have been totally involved with the Vietnam Veteran since 1962. I was receiving 4000 letters per day.

I put up my website so that the Vietnam Veterans could find me and they are still doing it.
 
I reside in San Diego, California.
 
I'm also an honorary member of the Marine Corp League in San Diego.
 
I will pass your email to Ted on to other Vietnam Vets.
 
Sincerely
Joy Wilkerson.

I was embarrassed that JoyÕs email had sat long untended and answered as soon as I checked her website. Plus IÕd never heard of Texas TechÕs Vietnam Virtual Archive (which I later learned holds Ms. WilkersonÕs memorabilia and is a wonderful resource for veterans and writers.) After seeing Ms. WilkersonÕs website, I was really embarrassed. I hoped adding my rank to the email would help to explain somethingÉanything. I hoped Joy would answer. My reply:

 

1/10/09 @ 1349

Joy,
Would you like me to post a link at Milspeak Memo to the archive? It would be an honor to do so.

Sincerely,
Sally Drumm, GySgt, USMC. Ret
Developer and Leader of Milspeak Creative Writing Seminars

 

I called Joy and we talked. This amazing woman has accomplished more than I can imagine ever doing! She told me an account of being kidnapped off the stage in Vietnam simply because Navy Seals wanted to outdo her bodyguard. I decided to buy her book – who wouldnÕt want to after learning a smidgen of her story! But the link was dead! I decide to let her know about the link. Our email conversation following the call lasted until evening.

 

1/10/09 @ 1414

Joy,
I just tried to click on the link to buy your book, but the link is dead. Would you like to have this repaired before I post a link on Milspeak Memo?

I hope youÕll consider sending a short excerpt from your book to post at Milspeak Memo. The Milspeak program website is http://www.milspeak.org
Scroll to the bottom of the page and click on the Memo link to see what the ezine looks like.

Sincerely,
Sally

 

 

1/10/09 @ 1510

Dear Sally I emailed Steve Maxner, Director of the Virtual Vietnam Archive, University of Texas Tech.Lubbock Texas that he may hear from you.

 

Also I emailed my good friend Ret Captain Navy Seal who resides in one of the Carolina's. His impressive work for and with the Vietnam Vets is also on the web. He is the one who kidnapped me off the stage in the Mekong Delta April 1967. His current goal is going after the Vietnam Waunabee's who never was in the service.
I wanted to tell you, on the cover of my book "Bring Joy To Vietnam" where I'm standing next to a jeep with some soldiers from the Big Red One, who upon my departure were killed by beheading, their bodies were sent home after, their heads were put back with wax. Their families were never told. One of the Navy Seals wrote a chapter, I put in my book that I found on the web about how badly I sang.

I informed all of my Vietnam Pen Pals that I could not sing. They said they didn't care if I sounded like Mickey Mouse.

I found out after my return to the USA and was auditioning for a show at NBC Burbank, that my music had all been written in an incorrect key. The man writing my parodies was so busily trying to get fresh with me, that I ran out of the studio. It was the "Hollywood Overseer's CommitteeĶ who finally had to concede and send me to Vietnam. 

Sincerely
Joy Wilkerson

 

 

1/10/09 @ 1525

I wish we had email when I was answering my 400 thousand letters a day from the my Vietnam pen pals on my royal portable typewriter, which is now in the Vietnam Archive,
Sincerely Joy Wilkerson

 

1/10/09 @ 1538

On the cover of my book "Bring Joy To Vietnam," I'm standing next to a jeep with some soldiers from the Big Red One, who upon my departure were killed by beheading. Their bodies were sent home after. Their heads were put back with wax. Their families were never told.
One of the Navy Seals wrote a chapter, I put in my book, that I found on the web about how badly I sang.
I informed all of my Vietnam Pen Pals that I could not sing. They said they didn't care if I sounded like MIckey Mouse.
I found out after my return to the USA and was auditioning for a show at NBC Burbank, that my music had all been written in an incorrect key. The man writing my parodies was so busily trying to get fresh with me, that I ran out of the studio. It was the "Hollywood Overseer's CommitteeĶ who finally had to concede and send me to Vietnam.


Joy,
I edited what you sent in the last email. It appears above. Would you like to add anymore to this? I could then add it to Milspeak Memo. Maybe you could add something about why you wrote your book and that you are now writing about your racing career.

I sent Steve an email.

Sincerely,
Sally

 

1/10/09 @ 1539 (From Sally)

Did you answer every one by hand? My gosh – you are amazing!

 

 

1/10/09 @ 1603

Why I wrote my book "Bring Joy To Vietnam"? In 1969 I tried to return to Vietnam and ran up against the" Powers That Be" in Hollywood and now as a single mother I had to get to work on supporting my three children, Craig, Candice and Kimberly who of course are all grown. My daughter Candice Carter is now a full professor at the University of North Florida. She is my hippy gone yuppie. She is one of the flower children against all wars. We just agree to disagree. I spent my entire inheritance from my aunt, 1962 to 1969 on communicating with my Vietnam Pen Pals who I will always dearly love. I started my website so that "My Guys" could always find me.

Sally I was born August 4 1930. I told my mother at age four that I wanted to adopt all the orphans of the world.

Not knowing at that time that it would be the entire military of the Vietnam War. When you read my book you will more fully understand. Now with my auto racing I crashed a wall June 12, 1977 in New Jersey breaking my fifth vertebrae.
Last April that injury reared its ugly head and I have seen "Mucho" doctors. All now appears to be OK. Because everybody at all of these appointments were so highly interested in hearing about my being one of the first three female racers? I committed to put my story in a book. "Lets Go Racing." I only have about 30 pages of a rough draft so far. I wrote a column for a race paper, at the time, and that editor was kind enough to edit it for me. All of my Vietnam and Auto racing memorabilia is in the Virtual Vietnam Archive.
 

Sincerely
Joy

 

1/10/09 @ 1614

Joy,
HereÕs the Milspeak Memo page with your link posted: http://www.milspeak.org/MM%20VI.htm
If youÕd like to add anything, please send. I will gladly format your work and post anything youÕd like.

Your work is inspiring!

Sincerely,
Sally

 

 

1/10/09 @ 1622

Sally I typed all my letters to my Pen Pals, along with taking care of my three children. When you read my book you will see that it started when I was in the hospital for having my appendix out. I saw a Col Andersen with the 101st
Airborne trying to take some hill in Vietnam. My heart went out to the men so when I got home I sent a letter with about 4 signed pictures to the 101st Airborne. In two weeks I received an answer from the Big Red One wanting some pictures too. After that my picture was in the "Stars and Stripes" for a few years. That is when I attracted all of the military to my mailbox. At first the letters went to my agent Mr. Louis Shurr's office he was also Bob Hope's agent. Louis was so over whelmed with the amount of mail, that he asked the Beverly Hills Post Office to send my mail directly to me. If you look at my videos you will know more about this era. My mailman would show up and say where do you want me to put these mailbags?

I read every letter and marked on them if they were a first time or second time around. ? Every first time around I answered that day I had to buy a file cabinet, I started writing the letter of the week and had a printing company
put it on pink paper with hearts. I took a special effort at helping the boys who were depressed.

For the most part these new friends of mine were interested in what was the clothes style, music etc. All requested I come to Vietnam; I answered NO Problem I will come. Boy did I hit a road block.!! My friends were not going to lose
the war of "Bring Joy To Vietnam. ? Some newspapers were saying ŌIf Joy doesn't get sent to Vietnam all of Hollywood would be pulled across the sea.Ķ All the Hollywood lechers were running for cover. Parents of these boys when they called Hollywood were told that I was black balled.

Now Hollywood hadn't taken into consideration that these boys had parents in powerful jobs, such at congress, owners of newspapers. etc.

Well Sally if you read my book and look at my videos you will have a better vision of what it was like.

Sincerely
Joy

 

1/10/09 @ 1640

Joy,

What a story!
IÕd love to read your work, but the link to buy it doesnÕt work on your website! I couldnÕt find any videos there, either!

Sincerely,
Sally

 

 

1/10/09 @ 1900

Sally I took a lunch break but now I'm back, I checked my web site the videos are there, Just click on the about Joy link. That's where the videos are plus info about my auto racing. I emailed Jack Adams of Authorhouse and asked
why their link was down. ?

 

In April of 1975 when we pulled out of Vietnam I was in Tokyo for show biz reasons. I received a call at my hotel asking if I would go see the Marine pilots who had just landed their fighter plans, at the far end of Japan. I said of course IÕd love to. I flew for about 6 hours in a Navy Plane with our guys not speaking Japanese, but the air traffic controllers only spoke Japanese. Boy was that a trip figuring out where we were in the sky.

To this day my Vietnam Vets while visiting the Vietnam Wall still cry because they were ordered to just leave the Vietnam people at the prey of the VC charley.

 

Sally I know there are many sites that say they can order my book.

Id say best thing is to just call up Authorhouse yourself and ask for either the book or DVD be sent to you.

Bob Hope got me started in visiting the military folks. One day on the set of his show that I was working on he said to Johnny Grant, Take Joy on your USO shows, Johnny Grant died this past year THANK GOODNESS!!

Johnny Grant only wanted to take actress's that would show up where he lived, free at the Roosevelt Hotel Hollywood

Believe me that is something that would never happen with me. Well one day I was on a bus with Johnny Grant and other entertainers. I was scheduled to do an act with him. While on stage Johnny says "this is Joy Wilkerson and do what you do Joy" then he walked off stage. Martha RayÕs guitarist Earl could see what was happening so he started to play the song "I'm just a girl who can't say no I'm in a terrible fix" and he was saying the words behind me.

This turned out to be the first one of my 124 titles, from the military, "Miss USS Kearsarge." My picture was shown in their paper, plus I was invited to lunch with the crew. The next week I visited our guys in the Long Beach Naval Hospital. Johnny Grant called me at home, and said, ŌStop writing the boys Joy you aren't going any where.Ķ ? The rest is history I did Ônot stop writing toÕ my guys the, Vietnam Pen Pals.Ķ

 

Jack Gates wrote a very complimentary note, which is on the cover of my book. Jack has now been after me to write about my Hollywood experiences along with my auto racing. Now all but Regis Philbin and Bob Barker are all on the other side. Therefore, I could write about them but with respect to them, I havenÕt.

 

In March of 1979 I married Dwayne C Ratliff. He died in 1998 of pneumonia. Dwayne was the network censor for 25 years at NBC Burbank, Ca, where we met. Dwayne danced in "Singing In the Rain" and was the understudy, as a dancer for Donald O'Connor, Fred Astaire, Gene Kelly. Dwayne contracted polio in 1956
and couldn't dance again. Donald O'Connor would never do his "Me and My Shadow routine again. This was a dance he and my husband had worked out. I reside in San Diego 5 miles North of the Miramar Marine Station. I have Marine
stickers all over my car. I'm an Honorary Marine League member, My daughter Candy is a contributor and Editor of some of the "Chicken Soup for the Soul" books. Sally I was born the Chinese year of the Horse in Detroit, Mich when were you born?

Anything I write to you feel free to print it.

Sincerely
Joy Wilkerson

 

1/10/09 @ 2052

Joy,
I think IÕm a dog. Born July 15, 1958 in Gary, Indiana. Enlisted in 1977. Wild hippie chick with dead American dream. So much has been lost, so much gained. IÕve read Tarot and palms since I was a child. This helped me understand literature when I began college in 2001. Pete and I live on a small island. HeÕs a carpenter and built our house on Lucy Point Creek. Land was his motherÕs. We have a wetland behind us. It was full of trash when we cleaned it. Beautiful now – owls, green herons, deer, lots of raccoons. Jets from Marine Corps Air Station Beaufort circle overhead. Eagles, too. Rifle fire from Parris Island drifts across the marsh. We call it the Coosaw triangle.

YouÕre generous to say I can post anything youÕve written to me. IÕll post some of the last email you sent. The Vietnam Veterans who visit the site will be brought to their knees in hearing from you. Your life sounds so complex, so giving – youÕve touched so many lives, and so many have touched yours.

ItÕs been a very strange series of coincidences that brought Milspeak to life. That chain led to your story. Milspeak began because I felt undeserving of my disability rating and I saw a need I could fill with my abilities. I have no idea where its going. I love what I do and I love seeing so many people being brought together through writing. One Milspeak writer was estranged from her sister for a long time. Her sister saw StacyÕs ŌBright and Pressed,Ķ read it, and contacted her. Our publisher, Kevin, found our anthologyÕs cover photo and sent it to me, he knowing only that a soldierÕs sister had taken the photo. When Kevin found Crystal, she gave us permission to use the photo and said that her brother had recently been killed in an auto accident. ŌMonkey Mountain,Ķ FredÕs piece for MCWS 8, created a furor. Dick Reynolds wanted to post his piece about the shootout on Monkey Mountain – thereÕs a map in FredÕs piece. I couldnÕt do that beside works of those that spend 5 weeks in workshop taking a piece from idea to story. Solution was to create an underground gorilla Internet magazine for military people. They have so much to say and are allowed so little room to move around in the public arena. Milspeak Memo seemed a good name for a short little thing.

I will find the link to your book and post it with the other links in your entry on MM. I will also create a document with your emails. It will be a Hello to those who are missing you. As soon as I create the post, I will email a link for you to check the post. If youÕd like any changes made, I will do so. When the Milspeak anthology is published in July, if it makes any royalties, Milspeak will grow. The anthology is part memoir and gives the workshop story. The table of contents will look like the one of The Thousand Nights and One Night. Atsuro Riley has contributed his poem, ŌHutchĶ to serve has the frontispiece. My oldest friend, whom I met in 1983 when we were stationed together, is providing a short poem for the endpiece. She served 6 years in the Corps, then nine years in the Cistercian order. She works at the local monkey farm, now, and lives in a camper on 400 acres near me. The poem was written in 7th grade. ItÕs about trees. A third of royalties from the book are going to the ChaplainÕs Helping Hands Fund.

The hand is a motif in my life.

You represent exactly the woman IÕve always strived to become. That Milspeak brought me to know you is but one of its many charms. IÕve never thought of Milspeak as mine. It was always collaboration, a hybrid of writing program and fellowship. Milspeak belongs to the military family and you are surely one of its deacons. I am so pleased to know you.

Sincerely,
Sally  

 

1/10/09 @ 2150

Sally yes you were born the Chinese year of the Dog. I know because my youngest child Kimberly was born June 26
1958. My three children are Craig is a Tiger and Candice is a snake. When I was with the Marine fighter pilots
in Japan I had my auto racing film with me. Boy did I feel inferior to their abilities. They said No Problem we don't know how to ride a motorcycle. I had been riding motorcycles across from the Hollywood Bowl with the police, while teaching others how to ride, Then these Marine fighter pilots said would you like to go parachute out of a plane?
I said yes but their commanding officer jinxed that idea
Sincerely Joy

 

1/10/09 @ 2109

Joy, IÕm working on formatting our emails. IÕll post it as a conversation. People will love hearing how you are!

IÕve attached the editorÕs note for the anthology. It explains a lot about me. My weapons controller callsign was Pirate. I was the first enlisted woman dogfight controller. Fought every day for 20 years. Still fighting but more peaceful like. You know what I mean, IÕm certain.

I used to run mini-bikes into trees when I was a kid. My uncle built trikes. My grandpa owned a mechanics shop. I went to sleep at night with a landfill outside my bedroom window and the racetrack roaring through the night. My step-dad worked for my grandpa until shop closed at his retirement. Don worked dragsters when he was young. Every car IÕve owned has had a Lady Luck sticker on it. If I ever would have gotten a tattoo, it would have been her. Pete has a bike. I canÕt ride. Never could – thatÕs why I always ran into trees.

Sincerely,
Sally

 

1/10/09 @ 2238

My goodness we have become close buddies in just one day.  I'm going to go to bed now and watch television.
Tomorrow is the big football day in San Diego, because the Chargers are playing the Steelers in cold Pennsylvania

I heard from Steve Maxner and he thanked me for whatever you sent him in your email.

You are far ahead of me in computer literacy. How I learned to ride a motorcycle was I attended a motto cross at
the Riverside Raceway. One kind young man taught me by having me go over and over again from one gear to another. Then we would add another gear one at time and finally I got my head to wrap around it and voile I could ride the motorcycle. The tough thing is to go slow and I mean SLOW while balancing on the bike. Anybody can go fast but the trick is to learn to go slow. Tomorrow I will look up your astrological chart, while I'm watching the football game.

I googled my husband Dwayne C. Ratliff and found him having danced in a film called "I don't Care Girl" with Mitzi Gaynor. I must say you being a Marine means your far from being a WIMP.
Good night
Joy

 

1/10/09 @ 2257

Joy,
I do feel we have become friends. IÕve also found someone to look up to. Tomorrow IÕm finishing up preparations for class on Monday. I have four courses to teach this semester. IÕll probably have 100 students.

Good night.

Sincerely,
Sally